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Jan062014

Keeping it real in 2014

If this is your first time stopping by HBK, welcome!  If you have been stopping by for awhile, I appreciate you welcoming ME back!  I know.  It's been a loooooooooooooong time.

Many months ago, I received a couple of comments (in real life, not blogland) in reference to my blog and how, "You just have everything together and everything always looks lovely." I assured the commenters that anything good they saw in my life was Christ, and that I most certainly DO NOT have everything together.  Those comments were meant to be compliments, but they really shook me.  Like, shook me to the core.  I started to think about what I wanted to get out of my blog and what I want others to get out of my blog.  Then I started to realize that I didn't know how to convey my message while being authentic--with readers AND myself.  So I prayed.  And I thought.  And prayed some more. And thought and prayed and prayed and thought...

And here we are today.  I certainly don't have all the answers I thought I was searching for, but what I do have are some goals and guidelines to help, and I feel compelled to share them with you.

1.  Purpose of my blog - To provide creative and budget friendly ideas for others to try/expand upon, and to provide creative validation for myslef.

I am a stay at home mom, and I LOVE it.  That doesn't make me better or worse than any other mom, it makes me ME.  My home is where our life happens, and I enjoy making it a welcome place for my family and our guests.  I am so grateful to be able to stay home with our kids, and I love to just hang out and create things with them, and I like to encourage others to try projects with their kiddos, too.

2.  Number of post per week - Realistically, only 1-2.  Maybe more someday...;)

Since my blog is basically "just for fun", it doesn't even make "the list" of daily responsibilities.  That being said, I LOVE to share ideas with others and read what they are doing, so I am going to make it a priority to spend some time on myself (it's not selfish, it's necessary!) and create at least one post each week.  Ideally I'd love to have 2-3 every week, but if we are to learn anything from my previous posting schedule, we know that is NOT going to happen!

3.  Authenticity - I will be genuine (as always) in my posts, and focus on my part.

During the many months of prayer, one thing that was continually impressed upon my heart was that I am not responsible for the way others perceive my words.  I certainly think that I have a responsibility to be mindful of what I say.  In real life, and on this blog, I am very intentional with the words I choose.  (This has not always been the case for me, but it is something that I have really worked at over the last several years, and I see MUCH improvement in myself!) However intentional I may be, I have learned that some people will still find a way to turn things around or focus on something that I hadn't even thought of.  You guys! I was literally EXHAUSTING myself trying to create posts that no one could criticize.  That was ridiculous.  First of all, criticism  can be very useful, and I am learning to take criticism gracefully.  Second, if someone does read something into a post that I didn't intend, that reveals more about them than about me.  So, with that in mind, I am going to work to create a post or two each week to share what's happening with us, and I will not allow myself to be creatively crippled by fear of dissaproval from others, because that's just silly!

So, if you're still here with me, I'd love to see what we can create this year!  I have so many projects in the works, and I'd love to show you some and see what you guys are up to!  Thanks for hanging with me!

And, on this record breaking cold day, it is incredibly important to enjoy the Son!

 

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Reader Comments (2)

Holly,

Welcome back! This post pinpoints exactly where I am as well.... I've struggled over the course of the past year to write posts. In fact it got to the point that I really, really did not like blogging. After prayer and many long hours of discussion I've come to the conclusion that I'll post when I post, about what inspires me. It might have to do with fitness, food, photography, fun projects, deep convictions, or DIY but it will be from the heart.... and I will not let the naysayers get me down! So thank you!

Have a lovely week!

January 9, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterpeggy

I think that this, people thinking others have it all together, is a modern day struggle for many. Not only with blogs, but social media, it's very easy to only see the "highlight reel" and not the full picture. Personally, I struggle with this too, about being authentic, but also with putting out content that people want to read. I've struggled with depression my entire life, but I really don't write much about it, because I think, who would want to visit my blog if it was just full of all of my negative thoughts and struggles? But, as a reader, I really appreciate reading what people are going through and that they aren't perfect. Finding the right balance is tough! I hope this year brings more transparentness for both of us. :)

January 21, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterTamara

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